In 1989, October was first declared National Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Since then, October has been a time of awareness for survivors of domestic violence and the voice of its victims. Domestic violence is a very common issue. It affects millions in all societies, and it affects all people regardless of age, socioeconomic status, gender, sexual orientation, ethnicity, religion, or nationality.
This does not mean that we should only promote Domestic Violence Awareness (DVA) in October. We should whenever, where ever raise our voice, or report domestic violence to the local authorities. In order to promote awareness, we should first thoroughly understand the topic of domestic violence. A recent study has also indicated that the current Covid 19 pandemic has also increased the domestic violence cases.
What is Domestic Violence?
Domestic violence happens when the Abuser, a person uses any kind of physical violence, coercion, intimidation, isolation, hunting, or emotional, sexual, or economic abuse to have or retain complete authority and control over the other person within the family or friend. This includes any behavior that is intimidating, deceptive, degrading, divisive, intimidating, intimidating, coercive, threatening, suspicious, harmful, harmful, or harmful.
What are the Forms of Domestic Violence?
Commonly people think that only abusing someone physically means domestic violence. This is a very common misconception and needs to be addressed. Physical Abuse is one of the kinds of Domestic Violence. Someone could be a victim of Domestic Violence of its different kind. We can broadly categorize Domestic Violence into the following.
- Physical Abuse
- Emotional Abuse
- Sexual Abuse
- Financial Abuse
This is a very common type of DV. It may involve pushing, shoving, pulling, shaking, slapping, biting, hitting, punching, kicking, strangling, throwing things such as frying pan, broom, or anything physical available at that time, or using common weapons such as a gun or knife. In the same manner, these items mentioned above could also be used by the victims in their self-defence.
This is also a very common form of DV, where the abuser takes sexual advantage. It may involve :
- Forcing your partner for sex or to undress as a means of humiliation (perhaps in front of children).
- To witness sexual acts.
- Force them to engage in sexual misconduct or sexual misconduct after an incident of violence.
- Have sex with other people, and the use of objects and /or weapons to harm during sex or threats to support sexual needs.
It is another form of abuse where the abuser takes advantage in form of economic means. It may include :
- Requiring a partner to be held accountable for all household expenses or other expenses.
- Use other person savings without their free will.
- Placing a partner on a “budget” that is impossible to live.
- Do not allow the partner to check their Bank Accounts or Credit Cards Bills for any misuse.
- Taking all money from a partner and controlling access to it.
- Refusing to pay for the basic living cost for the partner/spouse and children.
Verbal or Psychological Abuse
It is equally important as the other forms of Domestic Abuse. It may include:
- Insulting a partner.
- Ignoring the partner’s feelings.
- Withholding consent as a form of punishment.
- Shouting at a partner.
- Tagging a partner with words like “crazy,” “stupid”.
- Blaming a partner for all his or her problems.
- Putting down the skills of the partner as a partner, parent, employee.
- Demanding constant care and showing resentment in children.
- To tell a partner about his or her affairs or that he or she should stay with him or her because he or she cannot do it on his or her own.
- All examples under “threats” are included.
How can you identify Domestic Violence?
A Domestic Violence victim often feels unworthy of love, that they are alone or worthless. They think that they are solely responsible for what happens. As established above domestic violence is not always physical violence. It can be emotional, financial, or sexual harassment are all forms. DV is more about having control over the other. Domestic Violence is not limited to just community or race, or a country. But in most cases, it is found in families where they are financial difficulties.
How can you Identify the Abuser?
We now know for the fact that Domestic Violence can take many forms. But the Abuser will show more or less the same behaviors in all the cases. Here are some of the most common traits which should trigger the alarm. Please note, these are not all the traits, but they are the most common.
Jealousy, the abuser will try to control the victim by confining them from others and try to cut them socially from others. They will blame the victim for being unfaithful.
Degrading the victim in any sense they can in front of family or friends. It is more verbal abuse.
An abuser will always blame the victim for every fault or every bad thing that has happened.
To have control, an abuser will always threaten the victim of hurting physically, or emotionally directly or someone they love or care for.
Domestic Violence is all about controlling their victims against their will.
Abusers are really good at manipulation. They will manipulate the victims firmly so that the victims do not see or realize the reality.
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